💞 “We’re Getting Serious” Couple Stations
Think of this like a relationship scavenger hunt — not rushed, not forced, just experienced together.
🍽️ Cuisine Station
- Try a cuisine neither of you grew up with
- Cook a meal together from scratch (no shortcuts)
- Pick a “comfort food night” from each person’s childhood
- Talk about:
- Who cooks when stressed?
- Food allergies, restrictions, cultural traditions
- Is food about survival, joy, or connection for you?
How you eat together says a lot.
☕ Coffee Shop Station
Low pressure, high conversation.
- Find:
- One cozy neighborhood café
- One loud, busy café
- Observe:
- Are you talkers or quiet companions?
- Talk about:
- Morning routines
- How you start your day when life is hard
- Alone time vs together time
📚 Bookstore Station
This reveals curiosity, values, and depth.
- Browse together without rushing
- Pick:
- One book you loved
- One book you never finished
- Talk about:
- What topics you avoid
- What topics excite you
- Whether learning feels safe or intimidating
🎶 Concert / Music Station
Energy, joy, and emotional expression.
- Go to:
- A concert one person loves
- A concert neither of you would normally attend
- Notice:
- Who plans?
- Who goes with the flow?
- Talk about:
- Music tied to memories
- Songs that got you through hard seasons
🎮 Play Station
How you play = how you handle conflict.
- Options:
- Board games
- Video games
- Trivia night
- Watch for:
- Competitiveness vs cooperation
- Humor under pressure
- Talk about:
- Losing
- Winning
- Fairness
📖 Reading Station
Quiet intimacy.
- Read:
- Side by side
- Out loud to each other
- Talk about:
- Attention span
- Silence
- Comfort without performing
🧠 The Deep Talk Stations (Non-Negotiable)
These don’t need to be all at once — but they must happen.
💰 Finances Station
- Spending vs saving
- Debt
- Joint vs separate money
- Financial fears
- What “security” actually means to each of you
🏛️ Politics & Values Station
- Core beliefs (not just party labels)
- How disagreement is handled
- What issues feel personal
- What values are deal-breakers
⛪ Religion / Spirituality Station
- Beliefs, doubts, non-belief
- Traditions vs personal faith
- How you want to raise children (if applicable)
- Respect for differences
🏫 Children & Education Station
(Even if kids aren’t immediate)
- Public vs private vs homeschool
- Discipline styles
- Expectations of parents
- What you don’t want to repeat from childhood
👨👩👧 Family Station
- Boundaries with parents
- Holidays
- Family roles
- What “chosen family” means
🧸 Childhood Memories Station
- Favorite childhood memory
- Worst childhood memory
- When you learned you had to “grow up”
- Who made you feel safe as a kid
🧳 Conflict & Repair Station
- How you argue
- How you apologize
- How you shut down
- What makes you feel abandoned vs supported
🛌 Future Life Station
- Living together expectations
- Marriage views
- Aging
- Caretaking
- What “growing old together” looks like
💡 Final Thought
This isn’t about checking boxes.
It’s about seeing each other clearly — before life gets heavy, before habits harden, before silence replaces honesty.
The goal isn’t perfection.
The goal is truth, early and often.
Notes By Kae 